Eishes Lapidus (The Rechnitz Project) has recently closed the $10,000 compensation initiative. They are now offering Shadchan services and free car rentals for qualified dates in Lakewood, NJ.
Mishpacha Magazine featured an article by Philanthropist, Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz of Los Angeles California discussing his view and approach to the age gap problem in frum circles and calling the current situation a Shidduch Catastrophe. In the article he discussed an idea to help solve the age gap and offered an incentive to marry off older girls for the upcoming year:
IDEA: Ask the boys to enter shidduchim earlier.
The standard age that yeshiva boys start dating is 23. There is a minimum of two years of learning that most learning boys do before getting involved in dating, Mr. Rechnitz suggests that these two years be deferred to after marriage and boys start dating at 20 or 21. This is to be accomplished by the roshei yeshivah who can modify the learning schedule to enable boys to finish their essential learning earlier and start dating.
INCENTIVE: Subsidize money paid to the matchmaker:
For the upcoming calendar year of 5775, Mr. Rechnitz is offering to supplement the shadchanus of anyone successful in marrying off a girl age 25 or older, to a boy her age or younger, so that they receive a total compensation of $10,000. Certain minor conditions apply. This offer isn’t only for professional shadchanim. It applies to anyone and everyone, every age, race, or gender who makes a successful Shidduch that meets the criteria.
ELIGIBILITY FOR 10,000 GRANT:
- If the shadchan sets up a couple who gets married, and IF they meet the criteria below, this initiative will ensure that they get compensated up to $10,000 (minus money received from other sources for making the shidduch).
To be eligible, you must submit the shidduch via the form on their website BEFORE the couple has gone on their first date
This is a North American initiative – the girl must live in the US, Canada, or Mexico
This is for Orthodox Jewish singles only.
The girl must be 25 or older. The boy must be the same age (within 1 year) or younger
- This has to be the girls first marriage.
- ANYONE (not just professional shadchanim) can make a shidduch and qualify for this grant.
Shlomo Yehuda Rechnitz has approached the mission of marrying off all the girls in Los Angeles with the same intensity as he does for his own daughters. All the major shadchanim are aware that when any Los Angeles girl doesn’t have the funds for plane fare for a date, the shadchan can — without asking — automatically book the tickets and rental car, if necessary, for either the boy or girl, on the Rechnitz account. In addition, any shadchan who marries off a Los Angeles girl has his shadchanus supplemented to $4,000. If the shadchan can get a couple to date at least four times, they receive $500.
Apply for Shadchan services
For boys coming into Lakewood, NJ to date in need of a car, Contact: Shuey Greenspan
732-569-0714 or 732-569-0719
Help a Yeshiva implement programs to get boys to start dating earlier
Encourage the matchmaking of boys and girls the same age or where the girl is older
Contact Rabbi Yisroel “Freddy” Friedman to discuss helping your Yeshiva implement the early dating program [email protected]